5 ways to move on after a painful break-up

That night when your spouse said ‘I can’t take any longer. This relationship isn’t healthy anymore’. That moment when your ‘forever’ stopped holding on and left you because things didn’t work or his/her love just faded away. That feeling when you still believe you love him/her but your long time partner decided not to continue the romance. 

That event when everything around you moved in slow motion as you felt the cold tears flowing .Painful. Very very devastating.

There were factors why your lover turned you down. Third party. Vices. Attitude problem. Or maybe, you had created a culture in your relationship that killed the romance and the spark of affection. A culture that always ignites unhealthy arguments until it developed into a nuke and blasted the relationship you thought ‘may forever’.

Here are 5 effective ways to move on after a break-up you didn’t expect to happen. This is the time when you love to read and share inspirational quotes. A #hugotPaMore moment of your life.

1. Feel the pain.

Recognizing the pain teaches you that you are human and it is normal. Feeling the pain by crying it out will help you ease the negative emotions you felt after that terrible explosion but you have to handle it right. You need to force yourself not to hate him/her while savoring the heavy feelings because you are in the process of letting the thorns go. Close your room and process the darkest hour of your life responsibly. CRY to the maximum level.

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2. Practice to control your mind

Your mind dictates your emotions. Think that you are above of your thoughts and don’t let it control you. Whenever your mind is flashing destructive thoughts about your partner’s betrayal, knock it down immediately. How? Think of happy moments or something that can destruct the idea. Go to youtube and browse some funny videos.

Here are some tricks. Whenever a negative thought crawls in your mind, direct your sight to anything that has color. Recognize the color and say it silently. Maybe, your co-worker’s bag is blue. A stranger’s blonde hair. A building that has red accent. Find anything around you.

In this process, your mind is forced to recognize what you see. Your previous thoughts will be flushed by itself. Do it regularly and you’ll notice how will your brain automatically responds as days go by. You will be better at it soon.

Time heals but don’t let the wound take years to be healed. You can do short-cuts by stop ruminating the past issues. Take a deep breath and tell yourself you are stronger than yesterday.

Lumaban ka. Wag mong hayaang makulong ka ng iyong napakalawak na imahinasyon.

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3. Decide to move on

Forgiveness is the key to letting the past hurt go. It will not just free someone who have wronged you but also yourself from resentment. Convert the grudge to a positive energy by recognizing the idea that you cannot change the past ANYMORE but you can do something about the future.

Deciding to move forward serves as your engine to move on. Tell yourself you need to cut the ties between your current emotional state with the yesterday’s painful memories. You need to decide that you want to live in ‘present tense’. Tell it to the universe, and the law of attraction will do the rest.

Tama na ang paninilip mo sa fb account ng ex at ng kanyang lover. Mamamatay ka sa inggit. Hayaan mong si ex ang manghinayang sayo. Kahit ang Avengers hindi kayang gawin ang gusto mong mangyari sa past mo para baguhin ito. Mag desisyon ka na para sa sarili mo. Ano ba?!


Baka sa kaka check mo sa fb ng bagong jowa ng ex mo eh mas maganda pa sayo, baka mapainom ka ng Ariel 7.50 niyan.

4. Continue to love and stop the hate

Stop posting remarks about your ex on social media. He’s asshole. She’s bitch. And, you are? The Loser.

Some of your online friends will give you advices but there are also people out there who want to ride along the issue and ignite a clash of comments. Reading all these negative exchange of ‘filthy’ words will only create hatred inside you.

Good vibes.Good vibes! Optimism will bring you back to life. Fight the pain with your beauty, intelligence and most of all, with your good heart.

Wag ng mag mura ng mura. Sabi sayo eh, wag na sila e-follow sa instagram.Continue to love yourself, your friends, your family, your dog.

Gusto mo bang awang awa ka sa facebook habang ang mga putang inang ex na yan,( sabi bawal na bad words) , nag iienjoy sa bagong buhay nila?

5. Seek love not a lover

For girls, don’t you ever date somebody because you are broken.

Let’s face it, men are slaves of sexual thoughts and researches can back me up with that conclusion.Come on!  

Some would listen your 'eulogy' about the break up but mind you, they don’t care. They want your vulnerability. So, if that guy would offer you drink, don’t trust him even if you’ve known him for awhile. If that guy is married and offer you to hang out, be warned. I bet you don’t want to spend overnight behind bars or be scandalized on social media. 

Maliban nalang ko bet mo sya at medyo malandi ka rin at wala ka ng paki sa pagkababae mo, bahala ka sa buhay mo.


Majority ng mga lalake ganun. Wag munang ipagtanggol ang boyfriend mo na hindi sila ganun. Kung ako sayo maglagay ka ng mini speaker with GPS sa lamesa kung saan mag iinuman ang bf at barkada nya. Ma sha-shak ka sa maririnig mo. Better yet, accept the fact and guard your man with love.

 Men on the other hand, should ahmmmm also do the same thing maybe. I dunno. Ahmmm just seek love. True love. Go, find a new lover.

Sorry gals, men may also experience same pain but they are the ones who can easily manage break ups. They are less emotional than you. One emperador will do and they can manage to go home and sleep ( with snore).

Boys, just focus on ways 1-4. Hindi ko alam saan pu-pwesto sa 5th way. Shot nalang tayo!


Pero syempre, isipin mo nalang, God is watching. Hehe.

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